In
a recent column of the Sunday New York Times1, a professional wrote
to ‘the Workologist’, asking, “I fear that I recently but unwittingly became a ‘stealthy
bad reference.’” The former employee involved had worked for me on a contract
basis. I got a call from a potential employer who began asking increasingly
pointed and fairly specific questions. I didn’t want to undermine the person’s
chances, but I also didn’t want to lie. What should I have done?
The
Workologist responded, “Helping people get jobs for which they are unqualified
helps no one: It’s bad for the employer, makes you look unreliable and sets up
the job seekers for failure. The fact that the potential employer was “hitting
on exactly those areas” where you had misgivings suggests something a little
more specific: Maybe this potential employer had related misgivings, or had heard
similar doubts elsewhere. I think that you did the only thing you could: offer
the best possible spin without lying.

